Why do some people like to spit in bed? Spit kink explained

There’s something inherently erotic about spit. Blame it on its status of bodily fluid – who doesn’t love some wet and wild liquids? – or on the fact that it’s a natural lubricant, but one thing is certain: spit will always find its way into most of our sexual experiences, one way or another, whether we’re into the kinky art of spit or not.

So, it’s no surprise that drool play is becoming a very common fetish across the world with more and more people giving in to the pleasure of spitting on one another. “Spit in my mouth” has even become the keyword among Millenials and Gen-Zers to express general horniness online, just saying… And if you’re salivating after reading it, you might have just found your kink too.

What is a spit fetish?

The first thing we must touch base on is the exact definition of spit fetish, and this is because it is often mistaken for the saliva fetish, but they’re not the same thing.

Saliva fetish involves a person who gets sexual gratification out of drinking someone else’s spit. However, the spit kink refers to the arousal a person experiences when they spit on a sexual partner, or when such sexual partner spits on them.

This kink is often related to BDSM, more precisely to consensual degradation play. Conventionally, spitting at someone is seen as a sign of hatred or disrespect, and that might be exactly what makes it so erotic for some people, since we often find arousal in doing things that are in direct conflict with what society says we should do.

Though we cannot attribute the liking for spit kink to only one variable (after all, it comes down to each person’s preference and personal experience), we can say that some of the underlying traits associated with it include the ruin makeup look, the akin to the feeling of a cum facial, and the sexual arousal from the act of humiliation and degradation (for both the dominant and submissive partners).

How does the spit kink play out?

Spit fetish is not limited to two people simply spitting on each other. Like any other fetish, it has a multi-dimensional dynamic to it and there are a lot of ways to explore it in bed. Believe it or not, you could make a spit version of Kama Sutra out of it.

Lubrication

While saliva isn’t the best lubricant (better get yourself an actual lube), it does the job – proof of it are the hundreds of porn clips where spitting as a form of lubrication is king.

Couples who are spit fetishists might enjoy spitting all over each other as a means of lubrication as well as sexual gratification. That’s two birds with one stone.

Domination and submission

Spitting on someone is a sign of how devalued, repulsive, and inferior they are. It also makes for the ultimate act of total submission for men who wish to be dominated by a female dominatrix.

On the other hand, some women (especially those who like to be dominated) also enjoy the aspect of submission that comes with being spit upon and humiliated. It strips them of any traces of pride or dignity, making it a double act of surrender.

Swapping spits

Even though you might squirm at the thought of spitting in each other's mouths, truth is, you are already doing it every time you and your partner play around with your tongues. Given this premise, it’s not so hare-brained to imagine people trading spit with each other’s mouths slightly open, which is exactly what some spit kinksters dig.

Simply said, "sharing is caring," and individuals who are completely immersed in the spit fetish community tend to care a great deal about one another.

Gagging blowjobs

Gagging blowjobs are super popular not only in porn, but also in real life, as they happen a lot more frequently in bedrooms than you may think – we could blame the first-mentioned for it, though.

Gagging blowjobs also qualify as spit BDSM because the male literally gags the woman while she is giving him head, causing her to slobber and drool all over him, the floor, herself, and everywhere else in between. So it ends up being a saliva pool.

It's a very sloppy blowjob, a drooling and slobbering extravaganza, and a firm favorite of those who enjoy the spit kink.

Is the spit kink safe?

For the most part, we can conclude that the spitting fetish is pretty safe. The greatest danger it entails, is spitting in each other’s eyes. Other than that, just make sure there’s expressed consent from both parties, and start spitting away!

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